Tea + Tub Self Love Ritual

This ritual begins with a cup of tea, you can enjoy this recipe or choose any tea that brings you joy.

  • 3 parts oatstraw
  • 2 parts skullcap
  • 1 part rose petals
    *protip- add a hint of vanilla and  5-8 drops of pink primrose flower essence

Take an extra moment to make your tea intentionally. Maybe give it a smell, or take a second to feel it in your hands. Connect to it through the senses. 
Now infuse with specific direction targeted around self love, you can literally speak into it or do this silently in your head-

Possible Examples-
I trust I am exactly where I need to be. 

Flaws and all I accept and love my whole self. 

The deeper I love myself the more I am able to love others. 

There is no wrong way, this is for YOU and YOUR healing so do what feels right.

Brew the tea and let sit for 10min- 1 hr depending on desired strength.

In tandem be running yourself a bath, maybe add bubbles if that’s your style or a drop or two of an essential oil, perhaps some rose petals. 

I like to add a few drops of a gem essence depending on what I’m working through. In this case I would add a few drops of rose quartz or smokey quartz for heart healing and self love.

Once the tea is brewed choose your favorite cup, strain and if you eat honey add a generous dollop. 

Time your tea and bath to be ready at the same time. Shut the door and create your special space. Perhaps light some incense, white sage or palo santo. Do whatever you need to create a sacred space. I also like to have some of my favorite chocolate close 😉 Really create a royal set up for yourself.

Now climb in and feel the warm water engulf you. With a few deep breaths feel your heartbeat start to slow. Take a look around, look how beautiful this whole scene is. Breathe in a moment of gratitude.  

When you’re ready, start to drink your tea. 

Continue to breathe and sip but start to think about your perceived areas of weakness or wounds in your self worth, what do those thoughts feel like, where in your body do they live. 

Keep breathing and observing. 

What is your least favorite body part? Observe what comes up with this question, what emotions are there, do any people come up. Give it a look and hold your hands on or around it, close your eyes and begin taking deep breaths. With each inhale breathe in love and exhale shame. Breathe in compassion and exhale guilt. 

Continue this for a few moments where you inhale what you’re calling in and exhaling what you’re releasing.. See how it feels to experience the emotion but not become it. Use the water to wash them through you. 

Take your time, there’s no wrong way to do this.

When you’re ready go back to drinking your tea. With each sip, get drunk on yourself. As you are sipping think about all your strengths, what is your favorite thing about yourself, what does that thought feel like, where in your body does it live. 

What brings you pleasure? Are there sensations or colors? What does joy feel like, are there any visuals or memories? 

What is your favorite body part? Look at it and give it some extra love.

Continue to breathe and visualize yourself in your full power. 

Visualize filling up any holes in your self worth with warm tea and honey. Let each sip trickle into any cracks of self defeating thoughts or beliefs. Imagine your higher self showering you with warm liquid love. Observe what being in this wholeness feels like. Envision logging this vibration in your memory to be called on anytime you’re feeling hard on yourself or out of balance.

Reflect on what it feels like to slow down and be intentional with your thoughts and actions. It’s not just what we do, it’s how we do it.

Enjoy the rest of your tea and tub however you’d like, really try and be present with each sensory detail. 

When you’re finished, let the water out of the bath and watch all you are releasing wash down the drain.

Climb out and wrap yourself into a soft warm towel, thanking the plants, the water and most of all yourself for taking the time to nurture your mind, body and soul in this way. 

Enter your next moment, refreshed, full of self love and equipped with the tools to get back there anytime you need.

Tips for Aquarius Season

it’s electric, boogie woogie woogie

Oh Aquarius.

The water bearer brings with it, a detached yet wise perspective. Ruler of the electrical system and peripheral circulation, this season is a great time for activities that calm and center us as well as circulate the cerebral energy. Energetically Aquarius is cold, tense and dry, so it’s important to bring in foods and plants that warm, relax and hydrate. As we are orbiting in fixed air, mental stimulation may be on overdrive, things can freeze, especially thoughts- and the best antidote lies in warming and melting this ice with physical action, nervine and relaxant herbs, calming activities for the nervous system, and let us not forget about connection. 

Aquarius likes unique, different, exciting- this is a great time to go exploring, whether into your soul or out in the world. A great time for experiencing eccentric people, flaunting your freak flag, going on that random adventure.

Though both novel and creative, this Saturnian star sign can also sometimes hold an iciness, think of the February season in the northern hemisphere, we are in the heart of winter. This energy can feel cold, stagnant, emotionally absent, righteous, or stubborn but on the other end of the spectrum it can feel mystical, humanitarian, revolutionary, intuitive and visionary.

Finding balance within these parts of ourselves and how they express through us individually is the invited evolution of this archetype. How can we can learn to be the humanitarian, the lover and the listener. How can we focus on the bigger picture and not lose sight of what’s right in front.

Here are some tips for this season, things to watch out for and earth allies to help invoke balance:

Things the watch

  • Emotional detachment and disconnect 
  • Righteousness 
  • Stuck in obsessive fixed thoughts
  • Rebel without a cause
  • Anti-social
  • Dogmatic behavior

Things to do

  • Exercise
  • Travel
  • Writing
  • Singing
  • Creating
  • Meditation
  • Sound healing
  • New adventures 
  • Interesting people 

Some plants to lean on

  • Milky oat
  • Cinnamon
  • Lavender 
  • Cacao
  • Passionflower

Gem Essences

  • Clear Quartz
  • Lapis 
  • Garnet

Aquarius invites us to move beyond the self and see how we are all connected. This a time to really embrace your inner human and tap into how your individual gifts support the collective. I say this a lot and I’ll say it again because I really mean it- we are in this together. 

We each spin a different thread that completes this human quilt, and without each one it wouldn’t be complete. Though these are tender times in our civilization, the medicine of this season couldn’t be available at a better time. Let Aquarius inspire us to work together and think outside the box to initiate the changes we the people are looking to see.

On that same note and something I feel this past full moon in Leo illuminated beautifully- there are two sides to this equation. For real social change and really any change to occur it begins with the self, the individual. We must first take personal responsibility, do our own work and remember that through healing the self we in turn heal collectively. 

So to close, wherever you are in your personal journey I hope you celebrate your authentic expressions and honor the gifts you bring to the world. Let Aquarius help you tap into your intellectual genius and reflect on what your unique purpose is on this planet and further still how does this support the whole of humanity? Invite this season to inspire you to make the radical changes you may need for your desired goals, get weird and get going. Let’s use this momentum to shake it up, hold each other accountable, breakdown what’s no longer working and build the structures we want to see in our lives but also as a human race.

Wishing you a beautiful season, you are loved, you’re not alone and good luck out there!

New Moon in Sagittarius

Jumping for Jupiter!

new moon in sag

Yippee! Sun and moon in Sagittarius!

Oh sweet and frisky Sagittarius, we love you. All the signs offer different brilliance and education, but a fiery enchantment lives within this orbit and for many, it’s also the holiday season!

man climbs rope

With the sun’s transition, a fresh new energy rises from the vast depths of Scorpio and it feels like a shooting arrow and a ray of hope. This Jupiter ruled sign has us thinking about expansion and lucky for us there’s momentum around it. 

We could find ourselves expanding in or through our relationships, or investigating intellectual mysteries and exploring higher mind thinking and learning. With this new energy and with the rest of the current cosmic lineup some possible questions to ask ourselves during this time, how are we feeling about what we are in service too and how it is affecting our bigger picture plan.

Are we on track? Does it feel good? Is it supporting us, is it sustainable? Are we voicing our needs? Is there re-organizing that needs to be done or action taken in regards to the flow of our lives?

What needs to be closed out this year and what are we calling in for the next?

match lit

Perhaps there were epiphanies and truths last month showed, but now with this new wisdom and cleared space from the Scorpio detox, it’s time for rejuvenation, sass and playfulness.

Sag wants us to find that energy inside of ourselves and get to it, meow. 

There can be a lot about the state of our current world reality that can project a feeling of hopelessness or to give up and live in states of anxiety and fear, but Sag challenges us to see it another way, to look at it from all perspectives and angles. 

We can use this new moon to plant seeds and make plans to create the reality of our choosing. Dream big, live in possibility. Understand that we are the directors of our universe and thoughts DO create reality. If like me, you believe we are energy and vibration, be thoughtful about the frequencies you put in your body and what you surround yourself with. 

Some plants to lean on:

Burdock, Lemon Balm, Dandelion Root

Other tips for the season:

Take extra care of the liver and think about levels of consumption in all things. Jupiter out of balance can be excessive, keep an eye on moderation and balance. Give those hips some extra tender love and care, maybe spend some time in pigeon pose.

Partake in activities and situations that ignite your life force and fuel you with positivity. Be social, explore and contemplate this colorful and complicated life. 

baby at beach

This human experience thing; it’s hard. But we have to keep marching on don’t we? We are the only ones that can truly know ourselves and what we need, and for that we need to take responsibility and learn to communicate about it clearly with others. 

Be bold and mighty forces will come to your aid 😉

With Jupiter leading the way, let Sag help you do you.

trick or treat

a bittersweet guide to scorpio medicine

Beautiful Art by: Daria Hlazatova

It’s the time of year when the veil is thinnest, the breeze twirls, and secret glimmers of magic are all around us. The greens have faded to orange and brown while the leaves gently crunch to dust beneath our feet.

The sun shines differently, and there’s a different whisper to the air. We’ve initiated forward, the fixed fall is upon us and it’s officially Scorpio season.

Maybe you’re sipping warm tea, or wearing sweaters (unless you’re out here in Southern California, then you’re on guard for fires 🙁

It may not be crisp cool air, but no matter where you are, this new season is communicating with you.

Word from the Mother is – the vibe has changed.

Last month, in sweet Venusian Libra we were dancing with the Cardinal winds of change and outwardly relating with others, connecting with friends, partners and sharing in the harvest of the season. Now in Scorpio we start to slip into the deep waters of ourselves.

This archetype can be intense, passionate, mystical and private. And as the season shows, is so complexly a display of life, death and rebirth. Although sometimes misunderstood, this Mars and Pluto ruled sign offers an opportunity for purging stagnant emotions and a crash course in boundaries, transformation and letting go.

black and white flower decor

So how can we engage with this energy, what activities can we participate in to find balance, and what plants can we work with in this fixed water?

The Scorpion reminds us, like a snake sheds it’s skin, all good transformation requires some letting go.

This energy will express itself differently in everyone based on your individual constitution and current state, but if we can understand the archetype, we can begin to live in harmony with it.

In Medical Astrology, Scorpio rules over the large intestine, reproductive organs and processes. Detoxification, sexual vitality, bladder and genital health are all things to physically observe and focus on this month.

Scorpio teaches us to let go, like the leaves falling from the trees- to cleanse and keep in flow with the continuous death and rebirth of all things, her plants reflect that. They help us learn in both our physical and spirit bodies to let the natural process of release happen. Relax the tight hold and let go.

We are looking for plants that stimulate blood flow, cleanse and purify. Plants that encourage energy to move freely out of the body with out getting stuck. Plants that strengthen our reproductive centers, soothe and nourish the mucosal membranes, and plants that promote clearing and detoxification.

A new found friend of mine and green ally that shares some of the lessons, is her guardian herb, Blessed Thistle.

Blessed Thistle

The little gem couldn’t be more perfectly named. Now, if you’ve ever seen a thistle you know they are spiky and protected around their flowers. Already, through its guarded appearance, this is displaying qualities, through the doctrine of signatures. And although this plant looks and shares some qualities with Milk Thistle they are different plants.

She came into my life unannounced- strong and to the point like any Mars ruled creature would, and it became clear very fast how this plant holds the same sweet bitterness that comes with Scorpio medicine.

Blessed thistle has a very interesting and complex flavor, much like the sign. In infusion form it has an immediate bitter and almost acrid taste but then there’s a sweet demulcent quality and smoothness to its last note.
The bitter flavor is our first signal that this plant contains a healthy supply of alkaloids and terpenes, these are beneficial compounds activating to many different body functions, but are particular to digestive and liver health.

Energetically it is cooling and drying and great for stimulating damp stagnant tissues and waking up a sluggish liver or digestive system. This is great for the person who may hold a more depressive state, and lean towards burying feelings or have a lot of trapped anger. Those that have a tendency to get stuck and have a hard time letting go, will benefit from this plant as well. Physically it drys and clearing excess phlegm, but its balanced bitter profile can also work sympathetically and be used to stabilize the fluids in the body, making it a great ally for nursing mothers.

However my biggest take away thus far, is that this plant reminds you, and if needed pushes you, to let go. How very Scorpio.

I’ve been experimenting and drinking cold infusions of this plant every day since a few days after the sun entered this sign and even when I’m not fully present, I am being encouraged and more often than not, pushed, to let go around every corner.

It’s been happening in a literal sense, where I am running to the bathroom and peeing all the time, a normal response to detoxing. Or it’s also being triggered in more internal ways where a certain song will play and I’ll be overcome with sudden tears and find myself in a full body sob. There’s also been encounters where I’ll have an unexpected epiphany and get stung with some self reflected truth or sometimes it’s having to speak up and set boundaries or see where I am not. The medicine has come in all forms, but the underlying symmetry is that I’ve been feeling everything more deeply which is forcing action around dealing with whatever comes up. It’s through this discomfort that action results. This is very Mars.

It’s not always gentle but it’s always activating.

I’ve been finding myself on my hands and knees cleaning out the most buried of cabinets and finding that no project will work until everything in the background is clean and clear.

woman in brown dress holds sky lantern

No more can come in until some is released.

I’ll be honest, sometimes it feels great and other times its been quite painful. But with the help of this plant, I’ve been able to tune in to the secret teachings of Scorpio. To transform, first we must see, then we must feel, and then take action and release to create new.

Life, death, rebirth.

Sitting with discomfort and being forced to look at what is decaying our inner landscape is no small feat, but there’s a chance this season to gaze so far inward, way down into the vast caverns of ourselves and feel who we really are. Can we allow the darkness within us to rise to the surface and shine love and compassion on those parts that we bury? Scorpio wants us to be willing to understand ourselves so clearly that we can come to a place of truth, and then empowered acceptance.

Part of the evolution and invitation of this archetype is to become comfortable with the unknown, with the changes, and to trust. To become aquatinted and in love with the darkest depths of our emotions but become fluid with letting them ebb and flow, so we can experience the magic and embrace the power of letting go.

grayscale photography of hands under body of water

Scorpio asks us to go deep and be honest. Check in with our emotional waters, how we are processing and releasing emotions. Are we making decisions from lower vibration compulsions or tapping into the magical depths of ourselves. Will we stay holding onto ghosts of the past or are we inviting in this next chapter.

Although there is much magic and mystery, this season can sometimes hold a heaviness and can also have it’s stings- but my challenge to you is let the sting be stimulating.

Work with this part of the medicine.

For growth to take place sometimes a little sting is required to catalyze the transformation. This moment in the season is an opportunity to use that spark. Create alchemy within yourself and rise like the Phoenix from the ashes. We can shed the skin of things that no longer fit.

So what are ways we can create that alchemy and inspire the release? How can we become congruent with what’s happening outside.

If you’re curious about exploring working with plants on a spiritual level to find this cosmic rhythm, here are two recipes and rituals to engage with this energy and perhaps catch the wave of its releasing power.

You should be able to find organic plant material in the bulk section of your local herb shop or co-op, and if not Mountain Rose Herb’s is a trusted online source.

This is a ritual you can do once, or if you’d like you can brew it more often throughout the season. Three times a week is plenty.

Keep scrolling to find below. And if you’ve gotten this far, thanks so much for reading. I hope there was something helpful in there.

My wish for you is that this season you give yourself the gift of release. Trust the bigger picture, keep it moving, filtered and clean.

Be willing to go deep. 

Invite yourself to melt into the mystical mist of this archetype. See what may lie beneath… Perhaps there’s a beautiful surprise from your under world.

Have an excellent Scorpio season! I’ll see you on the otherside 😉

Scorpio Season Brew


  • 64 oz glass ball jar
  • .5oz of organic Blessed Thistle
  • 1 tsp organic Rosemary
  • 1 tsp organic Rose petals

Recipe: Measure organic plant material and put aside. First complete ritual, then add to jar and fill with water at the temperature of your choice and in both cases let sit covered 3-5hrs to infuse.

TIPS: For more of the bitter experience, do a cold infusion, if wanting less bitter use water just under boiling.

*If not wanting it as strong you can lower brew time how you like, or you can cut recipe in half and make as a tea and let sit for only 5-15min.

Ritual: Hold the portioned amount of blend in palms of the hands before adding to the jar. Take a moment and connect to the energy of the blend through touch and smell. With a grateful heart ask the spirit of these plants to share their medicine with you and feel free to give specific directions with what you are needing, or focus on your desired intention for release.

Example: “Help me release my attachment to control, help me let go of my anger from _____ etc… “

There is no wrong way to do this, this is for YOUR healing so do what feels right.

Once brewed, strain and fill yourself a cup. Give it a couple smells, maybe put a little on your body and then start to slowly sip.

Quietly observe what comes up, are there places in your body you feel it move to? Are any memories, images or smells circulating? Just allow yourself to observe.

Know that it will be bitter! This is formulated to jumpstart your system, connect you with the spirit of this plant, and to engage with the medicine of Scorpio. We are drinking with the intention of release and to purge what no longer serves us. Think of this plant as your cheerleader for transformation.

Journaling after doing this type of work with a plant is highly encouraged, its nice to reflect on it after the fact.

Another way to engage, is to brew blend and then sip little bits throughout the day and just participate in life and see what happens. You can always add honey if the bitterness is to intense.

See the situations you find yourself in. Observe your inner dialogue and your inner feeling space, see how you are reacting to people and emotions externally. Are things coming up? Are you letting them? See if you can tune into the subtleties of this plant.

If the tea ritual is not really your jam, here is another one to try- this is a version of the mask ritual we did from the beauty retreat I co-lead last month. It is designed to support deep release through the skin and spirit.


  • bentonite, french or green clay
  • Apple Cider Vinegar
  • Water


Take 1 to 2 heaping tablespoons of clay and blend with roughly 1 tablespoon of either water or apple cider vinegar, or a mix of both (also a great use for an herbal vinegar!)

Add liquid to the mud and create paste to desired thickness. 


Apply mask to face with fingertips, the thicker it is the deeper the cleansing will be.

As you gently rub the mud on your face hold an intention of all you are calling in to release and purify from your body.mind.and spirit. You can even speak it aloud.

Lay down and imagine the energy leaving your body, as it tingles, feel it be extracted from your being.  

Let sit for 10-20 min.

Once dry, wash off with warm water and as the layers peel off, visualize all you are letting go of.

Pat face dry with a soft towel. Spritz with toner or hydrosol and then apply a serum or cream of your choice. 

As you moisturize your face, look in the mirror and say

‘I love you. You are beautiful’. Repeat this like a mantra for 1 -2 min and use loving, circulating strokes.

   ⇢ ⇡ Pro-Tip ⇣ do this ritual on the full ◯ moon for extra releasing power  

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